Tuesday, November 19, 2013

You're Not Alone



I’ve wanted to write this post for a very long time.  In fact, I’ve written draft after draft, only to delete it and walk away.

Why? 

I think because I still lived with the memory of being stalked from this blog.  It sucked but now it’s a part of my past.  I’ve come to understand that the woman who stalked me was wrapped up in her own addiction.  I’ve forgiven her.  I never thought I’d be able to find that forgiveness in my heart, especially because she involved my children, but I finally did.

For those of you who found this blog by doing a search on your spouse or friend’s sex addiction, I want you to know you’re not alone.  This is one hell of a disease.  I also want you to know, you are strong enough to get through it.  I did.  So has my husband.  We've been through some really crappy stuff.

It hasn’t been easy.  It’s been a ton of hard work.  We continue to work on our own recoveries.  We’ve learned a lot through trial and error.  This blog was maintained before I found S-anon, a program that helped me tremendously.  If you haven’t found a support system, I recommend finding one.  I tried going it alone for far too long.  My ego didn’t support me relying on other people.  Trust me, you need them, even if it’s just to talk to someone.

I have another blog.  One that shows the true progress I made in healing from the trauma of the affairs and the anger I felt inside.  It also talks about my husband’s recovery and his stumbles and how I handled them. 

If you’re interested, just comment below and I’ll email you my new blog address.

I wish you all the best in your recoveries.